Turn on the radio, open your phone, scroll for five minutes.
War, politics, climate, injustice, fear all competing for your attention.

Your mental health matters.

If you’ve found yourself feeling anxious, helpless, distracted or quietly overwhelmed by what’s going on in the news lately, you’re not weak or overreacting. You’re human.

And no, this isn’t about pretending it’s not happening or sticking your head in the sand, being informed matters.

Caring matters, but so does your mental health.

The real challenge is finding a way to stay engaged without carrying the full emotional weight of the world on your shoulders every single day.

Why constant news exposure takes it’s toll.

Our brains aren’t designed to process a 24-hour stream of crisis.

When we’re repeatedly exposed to distressing news, especially stories we have little control over, our nervous system can slip into a near-constant state of alert. That can show up as:

• Feeling on edge or snappy for no obvious reason
• Difficulty concentrating or sleeping
• A sense of helplessness or dread
• Emotional exhaustion, even when you haven’t “done” very much

None of this means you don’t care. Often, it means you care a lot.

So, let’s talk about what you can do, practically to protect your headspace while still staying grounded in reality.

Limit exposure.

This isn’t about avoiding the news. It’s about being intentional with how and when you consume it.

A few gentle but effective boundaries to consider:

Choose when you check the news – Instead of dipping in constantly, pick one or two specific times of day to catch up.

For example:

• A morning check-in
• Or a short update in the early evening

Outside of that, give yourself permission to step away.

Be selective about where you get your information – endless scrolling is rarely informative, it’s emotionally draining.

Consider:

• One trusted news source
• A daily news email rather than social media
• Turning off push notifications for breaking news

You’re not missing out, you’re reducing noise.

Notice when “staying informed” tips into doom scrolling.

A simple question to ask yourself:

“Is this helping me understand, or just fuelling my anxiety?”

If it’s the latter, that’s your cue to pause.

Shifting focus to what you CAN influence.

When the world feels out of control, grounding yourself in what is within your reach can be incredibly stabilising.

This isn’t about minimising big issues it’s about anchoring yourself.

Come back to your immediate world

Ask yourself:

• What’s needed of me today?
• Who or what is right in front of me?

Your home, your work, your relationships, your health -these things matter too.

Take small, values-led actions.

If something in the news really matters to you, consider one manageable way to respond:

• Donating, if that’s within your means
• Writing to an MP
• Supporting a local organisation
• Having thoughtful conversations rather than heated debates

One small action is enough.

Create pockets of normality.

Routine can be grounding when everything feels uncertain:

• A walk you take most days
• A familiar meal
• A regular catch-up with someone who feels safe

These aren’t distractions, they’re stabilisers.

Give yourself permission to step back.

This is the part many people struggle with.

Stepping away from the news doesn’t mean you don’t care, It means you’re recognising your limits.

You’re allowed to say:

• “This is too much for me today.”
• “I need a breather.”
• “I can’t hold this and everything else right now.”

Caring about the world and caring for yourself are not opposing ideas, they go hand in hand.

A regulated, rested, supported person is far more able to engage thoughtfully than someone running on empty.

My final thought……

You are not responsible for fixing everything.

You are responsible for looking after your own mental health, energy and capacity  especially when life already feels full on.

Stay informed. Stay compassionate.
But also stay grounded, steady and kind to yourself.

Sometimes the most practical thing you can do is close the app, take a breath and come back to what you can influence one small step at a time.

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For many people, that message doesn’t inspire — it overwhelms.

You’re expecting too much from yourself.

If you’re entering the new year feeling tired, unmotivated, or emotionally flat, you’re not on your own. December often demands more than we acknowledge and expecting instant energy and clarity in January ignores the reality of how life actually works.

You don’t need to reinvent yourself to move forward.
You don’t need a dramatic reset or a personal overhaul.

What you do need is permission to begin gently.

It’s time to take stock.

A gentler start to the year is about slowing down enough to notice where you are right now. Not where you think you should be. Not where you were hoping to be by now. Just here, in your real, lived experience.

That might mean taking stock of what feels heavy after the end of last year. It might mean acknowledging what already feels stretched or unsustainable. It might also mean recognising what’s working quietly in the background and giving yourself credit for that.

Practical reflection.

This kind of reflection isn’t indulgent. It’s practical, because when you start from honesty rather than expectation, the decisions you make are more grounded and more likely to last.

A gentle beginning doesn’t mean doing nothing. It means doing the right things at the right pace. It means allowing January to be a month of settling, listening, and recalibrating rather than pushing.

You’re not behind.
You’re allowed to start the year in a way that supports you, not drains you.

How I can help.

Life coaching can support you. I can work with you to create a realistic action plan that will move you forward with intention but fitting into your everyday life in a realistic and manageable way.

Contact me today to arrange a free 30 minute chat to see if we could work together in a sustainable and supportive way.

Wishing you a happy and peaceful New Year.

Kate.

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An end of year reset isn’t about reinventing yourself. It’s about closing the year a little calmer, creating space for joy and carrying only what feels supportive into the months ahead.

Here are 4 simple steps to help you end the year with ease:

1. Reflect, Don’t Rewrite

It’s easy to focus on what didn’t get done, but now is a good time to look back on what did go well. What small wins are you proud of? What moments of joy stood out? Reflection builds confidence and reminds you that progress doesn’t have to be perfect to be meaningful.

2. Clear the Decks

Choose just one small area to declutter before January – your desk, your wardrobe or even your fridge. A single reset can make you feel lighter and more prepared to step into the new year without carrying old clutter with you.

3. Tiny Joys List

Write down three little things that make you smile – a favourite song, a hot chocolate, a walk in the fresh air. Then, make space for them daily. These tiny joys act as reminders that calm and happiness are built from small, consistent choices.

4. Plan Lightly

Instead of overloading yourself with New Year’s resolutions, choose just one or two things you’d like to carry forward into the year ahead. Make them intentions rather than resolutions. Keep it simple, gentle and realistic. This way, you step into January with clarity not pressure.

Setting the tone for the year ahead.

Your end of year reset doesn’t need to be dramatic. It’s not about doing more, it’s about creating breathing space, celebrating what matters and choosing to end the year with calm and kindness. Ease now sets the tone for ease later.

Take a moment to acknowledge how far you’ve come.Even if it hasn’t always felt easy, you’ve taken steps however small, to ease overwhelm and create more space for yourself. That matters, and it’s worth celebrating.

Let’s work together.

If you’d like to carry this momentum into the New Year and keep building on the positive changes you’ve started, I’d love to have a chat with you about how we can make that happen together. Book a free call with me to see how we can dance into 2026 rather than wade through treacle!

Refection Prompt:

What’s one small thing I’d like to leave behind this year, and one small thing I’d love to carry with me into the next?

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I don’t know many people who look forward to the month of January. Yes, it can be a time for new beginning’s and change but personally, I’m not a supporter of that. In all honesty, January can feel pretty miserable.

What do we do to survive it?

1. Manage your expectations – if you don’t expect too much from the month or yourself it will be far easier to deal with. I’m not saying expect it to be miserable, it doesn’t have to be but be realistic about what you can achieve i.e money might be tight after Christmas so limit social occasions to avoid unnecessary pressure on yourself.

• Use the time wisely – Weather not great? All a bit gloomy out there? Choose this month to tackle indoor projects or hunker down and rest and recharge the batteries.

• Planning – having something to look forward to is important, January is a great month for thinking about the year ahead, things you might want to do, places you’d like to go. They don’t have to be big plans – perhaps a list of people you’d like to visit over the year?

• Get outside when you can – Even if it’s gloomy, getting outside for a short walk or a good old stomp can make us feel so much better. Wrap up, get the waterproofs on and walk. Great for our mental health and wellbeing.

• Nourishing food – you’ve probably had the excess of Christmas, meal planning and really thinking about what we put in our bodies at this time of year not only makes us feel better mentally, but it also helps ward off the winter nasties. Experiment with some new ideas if you have the energy.

These are all things that might help but sometimes we need to change our mindset, change the way we approach something.

A different way of thinking.

I think it has been really interesting this month seeing so many social media posts about people doing things differently. So many more people appear to be embracing this desire/want/need to gently ease back into life after Christmas.

There seems to be more emphasis on resting (when you can) not pushing yourself and recognising the season that is winter and the need for some sort of hibernation rather than a manic approach of “new year new you.”

Embracing the seasons.

Personally, I would be delighted if this became more of a ‘thing’ as it makes so much more sense to me and watching those clients and friends of mine that are trying this approach and how much happier they appear to be, is really interesting.

Easing into a New Year.

I too have been trying this different way of managing January and although I have never set out New Year’s resolutions, I have realised how I usually put unnecessary pressure on myself to get motivated, to get going again with a certain speed that hasn’t always served me well. Easing back into the New Year has proved not only beneficial for my health but my mental health too and it’s something I will look to continue with over the next month or so. As Spring starts to emerge I can up the pace – sounds far more pleasurable to me.

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Firstly, there are the practical things that we can do to make a difference. Here are some the things you could do – and how you could start doing them:

Practical ways to make a difference.

1. Identify your passion and purpose
   Identify a cause that aligns with your passion and do some research into it
   Understand that even small actions can have a significant impact over time
2. Educate yourself
   Stay informed about current social, environmental, and community issues
   Educate yourself on the root causes and potential solutions related to your chosen cause
3. Volunteer locally
   Find local organisations or charities that align with your values
   Offer your time, skills, or resources to contribute to community initiatives
4. Raise awareness
   Use social media and other platforms to raise awareness about your chosen cause
   Share information, success stories, and opportunities for others to get involved
5. Connect with like-minded individuals
   Join community groups, forums, or events related to your cause
   Build a supportive network of individuals who share your passion for positive change

Inspire others.

Making a difference is not reserved for a select few; it’s a journey that anyone can embark on. By identifying your passion, staying informed, and taking action, you can contribute to positive change. Remember that every effort counts, and collectively, individual actions can lead to a more compassionate and sustainable world.

Demonstrate the change you wish to see in the world through your actions. Inspire others to join you in making a positive impact.

Day-to-day inspiration.

For those of you not able to commit to the bigger projects or time heavy activities, focus on what you can do each day.

How can you make a positive impact in your world right now?

• A smile to a passer-by?
• A chat with the check-out operative?
• Helping someone with a heavy load?
• Holding a door open?
• Helping someone with their buggy?

There are so many small things that we can do each day where we can make a difference to someone else’s life.

What can you do?

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I appreciate that we are not all the same but if you too shy away from new year resolutions but want to start the year with some sort of positivity, intentions could work for you instead.

What’s the difference between intentions and resolutions?

A goal – or resolution – is the object of a person’s ambition or effort; an aim or desired result. We are usually looking for a specific result at the end of our journey i.e I want to get fitter this year, so I am going to go to the gym at least 3 times per week.

An intention is more generic – a thing intended, an aim or plan. i.e I am going to continue to work on my boundaries by taking a step back in certain situations.

These might not sound very different, but for me, intentions are more gentle. Intentions tend to be things I am already working on and want to continue learning about and improving. Unlike goals with defined finish lines, intentions are meant to guide us on a continuous journey. They shape our choices and actions without demanding a specific outcome.

How can we set intentions for the year ahead?

Rituals hold a special place in my heart when it comes to setting intentions.That might be writing down my intentions in my journal and then reading through them in a quiet space with a glass of wine or sharing them with my best friend, talking through what I’m working on – these small ceremonies imbue my goals with magic.

There doesn’t need to be accountability with intentions, not in the same way we do with goals. Intentions can be noted down and then reflected on throughout the year. I tend to only do this around September, and then again at the end of my year to see how I’m doing.

Some ideas for intentions.

• I am going to protect my personal space more this year.
• I am going to continue to avoid other people’s dramas – not my circus, not my monkeys.
• I am going to look at ways to have more fun, more silliness in my year.
• I am going to care less about what others think.

These are just a few examples and might help you think of what yours could be. Remember, this is all about YOU, this is about things that help you grow as a person, that nourish your soul, the things that top up the energy levels and make you feel good about yourself!

You’ll be surprised what a shift in mindset these can create – have fun with them and see how it shapes your year ahead.

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I am NOT a New Year’s resolutions person, I never have been but I understand that it works well for lots of people, HOWEVER…..before we map out the expectations and goals for the year ahead, how often do we take time to reflect on the year that’s been?

This might be something that you do in December, it sounds like a good time to do it before the next year comes crashing in but who realistically makes time/has time in December to really look back at the previous year with any sort of intent?

Positive reflections.

So, how do we reflect on our year in a positive way at the same time making note of the things we have learned, the things we may not wish to carry forward, the things we want to keep on doing?

A list.

We love a list, or a mood board, or a mind map – something that you can physically look at.

Your reflections.

1. Take time to go through your year month by month and remind yourself of events, achievements and obstacles that you incurred. Make a note for each month.
2. Once you have pulled these things out of the memory banks, look at each thing individually and bullet point or even write a word or phrase that reminds you of what that event or happening brought you and taught you.
3. Some things you will feel are not worth noting or perhaps you want to acknowledge them and then move on without making notes – that’s also fine.
4. Having gone through all the months and identified the learnings, you can then chose to create a visual reminder of the year (your mind map, vision board etc.)
5. Now pick out the important lessons, the important achievements and this doesn’t have to be just yours but maybe your child’s or partners?

On a separate piece of paper or even in your phone, make a note of the things you want to carry into 2024.

These can be things like –

• I want to spend more time with XXXX
• Regular pilates classes make me feel great, I need to make the space for them.
• Spending time with X is a real drain on my energy – manage better.
• Planning my meals/food shopping is a game changer.

These notes are just for you, they are reminders of what works and what doesn’t work for YOU.

Taking the time to reflect on a past year will often trigger you to remember just how much you have achieved – what a great way to start a year!

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I don’t.

Planning for the future.

Well, not at the moment I don’t. I do have things I want to do. I have places I want to go, of course I do, BUT I am very aware about being caught up in this future planning and not actually doing.

As we get older, naturally we’re confronted by death and it’s not something that people are very good at talking about. We are sympathetic with those grieving, we will grieve ourselves, there is a whole host of emotions to consider, but that is not what this blog is about.

Are there things you want to achieve?

As we become more aware of death, we might experience friends and family being taken from us too soon. We are then thrust into a very strange place of inspecting our own mortality and that can then lead to asking questions such as ‘what am I doing with my life?’ or ‘what do I want to have achieved?’

We can become focused on the time we have left and, as morbid as that sounds, it’s a fact. You can’t help but think that could have been me and that’s scary.

If you have suffered many losses, if you have felt consumed with grief and all that it brings, it is totally understandable if you become a little fixated with death or making sure that time is not running out for you. But it’s so exhausting, isn’t it?

Personally, I don’t want to spend my time constantly focusing on all the things I want to fit in before I die. I don’t want to feel like time is running out or that feeling of who knows how long I’ve got.

I want to live.

What can you appreciate right now?

I want to look around me right here and right now and appreciate what and who surrounds me.

I want to plan things based on the face that I’d love to do them as the person I am now, not because it’s an exercise in ticking off the bucket list.

I want to look at the next month and work out how I can get the most, the best out of those days. Even the next week if that’s easier.

And if life is particularly tough for you right now, maybe it’s time to ask for some help to get some support to help you focus on the immediate but at the same time find some glimmers of hope for the future.

I want to live my life.

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But then, you get the job and start thinking about what your next promotion will be. You get a nicer house and start looking at how you can improve it. You try to change certain things about your partner, and you find other things about them that you feel need to be changed too. It keeps going and going.

Instead, what if we learnt to be more content now, to feel some gratitude for what we’ve got without any external changes?

How do we do this?

1. Take a moment to be grateful for something. Maybe it would be a good idea to write a gratitude diary, jotting down 3 things each day that you feel grateful for.
2. If you catch yourself thinking, “This is rubbish, this is unfair” Find a way to be thankful for the situation. “My husband is a good & caring person — maybe I should give him a hug.” “My house might be messy but at least I have a roof over my head.”
3. Find the little things that can give you simple joys. What do you need, to feel happy? I love simple things, like walking by the sea, spending time with loved ones, reading a book, drinking tea. These cost very little, and require very little effort, and can make me very happy.
4. Find the things about yourself that you’re happy with. We tend to criticize ourselves easily, but what if we turned it around and asked, “What do I do right? What am I good at? What is loveable about me?” Make a list. Start to focus on these things rather than what you’re unhappy with.
5. Do the same with others in your life. Instead of criticizing them, ask yourself, “What is good about this person? What do I love about them?” Make a list and focus on these things above all else.

The moment we are living in is not a stepping-stone to something better — it is exactly as it is and can be wonderful, it can be difficult and challenging, but everything changes all the time and we need to focus on the now.

We can choose to be happy now.

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These days we have some fantastic role models of “older” ladies, women are seemingly coming into their own later in life, appearing to care less about fitting in and caring more about the quality of their life so why does ageing still come up in my coaching sessions on a regular basis?

As a practical Life coach, I coach both men and women and I think it is fair to say that I rarely have a conversation about age with my male clients. We might discuss related issues such as career change, redundancy and how to deal with that but NOT what they look like. Obviously, there is the occasional male client who is struggling with getting older, less fit maybe, but for me, it has only been occasionally.

What is interesting is that some of the subject matter might change for individual clients, but that overall, most of my clients who are dealing with getting older and all that it brings, struggle with very similar issues.

So how do we change our thought patterns and our beliefs to embrace (or at least manage) getting older?

A few of the things that I’ve worked on with clients that can help..…

1. Limit your time on social media – stop comparing yourself to friends and even people you don’t know. You have no idea how “real” the life that they are portraying online is and therefore have no idea of the possible struggles they too are contending with. You also don’t know how much time they’ve spent photoshopping their pictures!

2. Engage with other positive people. Search out people who are of a similar age that are embracing their lives – the ones who are getting out there and making the most of what they have. Again, if you spend enough time around positivity, it will have a knock-on effect on you. Avoid the “woe is me” brigade – you don’t need to add to any negativity you are feeling, that’s for sure.

3. Maybe it’s time for some personal re-evaluation? Do you need to feel healthier, fitter to feel better? Maybe invest in a personal trainer or research a class that you could join that would not only get you out but meeting others?

4. Perhaps it’s time for a wardrobe overhaul? It might seem like a frivolous expense, but Style Coaches/Image consultants can make a HUGE difference to how you are feeling about yourself. I have clients who feel that their image consultancy session has saved them literally hundreds of pounds and left them feeling much more positive about their overall look.

5. Working with a Life Coach and looking at how you want your life to be right now, having a positive and practical action plan to empower you can also be something to add to your tool kit of life!

Embracing getting older.

I have worked with women that wholeheartedly embrace getting older and the empowerment that they feel it brings them. They have done a lot of self-work and can appreciate the journey they have travelled and be grateful for the experiences along the way.

I asked one of these clients, how she had maintained this attitude of positivity and her response was as follows;

“I don’t claim to have it all sorted, I too have days where I look in the mirror and don’t recognise the woman staring back at me, but I choose to confront those feelings and be grateful that I actually have the opportunity to stand and look in the mirror as so many of my family and friends will never be fortunate enough to experience ageing.”

A sobering thought but also so true.

Ageing is inevitable.

Ageing is inevitable and something those of us lucky to be able to experience have a choice – we can fight it all the way OR we can decide to embrace it the best we can and appreciate and be thankful for the amazing body that has got us this far, every wrinkle/laughter line that tells a story, every scar every lump and bump that shows we have lived and continue to do so. Some days it won’t be easy, ask for help if you’re struggling – it is one of the experiences we will all share, the good bits and the bad.

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