There will be lots written about grief and grieving at the moment and rightly so, it’s a hugely personal experience that affects everyone very differently and there is a variety of “help & support” for those grieving but what about the immense sad feelings we can have which feels like grief but knocks us for six because we don’t actually know the person that has passed?

I’m no psychologist but I just want to say to you that THIS IS ALLOWED. You are allowed to feel sad, to grieve the passing of someone you have never actually met.

You can feel terribly upset & sad for their family, for the people that they were close to. You might find yourself reliving your own feelings of grief triggered by an image you see or a piece of music that is played. It can be something as simple as just being sad for the passing of someone you have admired from afar.

There is no right or wrong in the process, this is YOUR process, and some people will understand, and others won’t. Choose the people you talk to about it carefully – think about whether they will be sympathetic, empathetic or just have the ability to listen without offering an opinion.

It’s a time to be kind to yourself and kind to others around you as we never really know what someone else is going through or coping with.

Whether you are a supporter of the Royal Family or not, let us be kind and respectful of others at this time.